My goal in starting this blog is to document my journey into uncharted territory...Sounds scary, right?
Let me explain...
I am a 28 year old first time mom to the most beautiful baby boy you will ever know...he has changed my life in more ways than I ever imagined...he has truly made me a better person...HOWEVER, I'm wondering how I am supposed to be a mom and have a life...I know that you give up some part of yourself when you have children, but how much?
I see these women who are well dressed, go out for lunch with their girlfriends, have careers, clean, cook amazing meals, exercise and they find the time to have "meaningful" relationships...Well I've never actually seen or met any of these women but they exist on TV and that's all that matters:)
With that said, I feel a little better...
This blog will serve as a sort of therapy for myself and all of the new moms out there who wish to "preserve their sexy!":)
ok, so i think i'm offended! i dress well when the occasion calls for it, i have lunch with my friends, and dinner and drinks, motherhood is a career, i certainly clean thanx to the OCD, i cook and have started the weight loss program and does my hubby count as a meanigful relationship??? i guess so, lol. anyhoo, last i checked you still go out, you work and am a mother, idk abt the cleaning or cooking, but i think you work out and you're engaged about to be married....so there's TWO of those women right there :-P
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What she is addressing is the loss of self when you suddenly become"baby and me". The loss of "you first". It is the moment that you realize no matter how hard you work, how much you devote to your child and partner, that the majority of the home duties will always belong to women. When you are a strong invisible woman, you imagine that these old, limiting "roles" would never hold you down, but they do and you finally realize no matter how hard you work the world is very unfair!!!
ReplyDeleteI congratulate Leslye on her innate womenly power and sense of self.
I support your journey and I walk with you!!!!!
Oh, my sister I could not have said it better myself. I should have done this when I had Joshua but am happy to ride "shot gun" with you because I am feeling it all over again with Benjamin. I do not feel as "lost" the second time around however sometimes I hear a song, look at a picture, see an old friend and wonder..."What happened to that person and is she ever coming back?" Truth is I do not know what I would do with her if she did come back. Life is certainly different and I cannot imagine my life without my family. I just wish it were easier to find the balance. You are feeling what every new mom feels. You will get through it...all the mommies before us have. At least that's what I tell myself everyday:-)
ReplyDeletesoooo, i will take the second comment to have been directed at me after reading the first and second to last sentences, and to that i say...CLEARLY, i was being light hearted with my comment so there is no need to address me or try to set me straight/break it down by explaining what leslye meant. uh, i get it. hence the "lol" and :-P its a blog, not an assault on one's character...been doing this for years so, um, lighten up folx!
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